Chief
archeologist Yigal Alon-Tamir says that hundreds of two-thousand year
old chocolate coins minted by the Maccabees have been discovered at a
dig near the town of Shechem. His team have left a few of the coins
uneaten, so that expert chocleteurs can analyse them and discover what's
changed in chocolate making techniques in the last 2 300 years.
"they're not bad" says Professor Alon Tamir, "sure a little stale, but
nothing worse than the kinds of things you'll find on the shelves of
petrol station shops or 24/7 convenience stores."
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One
out of five children between the ages on 9-17 has a diagnosable mental
disorder....(i.e it is possible to pathologize and pin a label on at
least one out of five children, generally as a way of handling the
parent's or teacher's unresolved anxieties and blind spots)
Wednesday, March 26, 2014
Tuesday, March 25, 2014
Parenting Styles and Politics
Once I was on a plane – a domestic flight I believe – perhaps
between Joburg and Cape Town. For some reason the plane was delayed. A toddler
who sat next to her young mother became more and more distressed and began (or
continued, she may have already boarded the plane crying) to sob and shriek
very loudly...even ear piercingly. The shrieks and wailing continued as the
mother tried, unsuccessfully, to calm her. Other passengers stared, and a
succession of cabin crew offered advice. A dummy was tried, food, the mother
held the child tightly and rocked her, but the shrieks just grew louder and
louder. The mother, sensing the agitation and hostility of other passengers,
and her own helplessness, seemed to me worthy of tremendous compassion.
My natural impulse was to empathise with mother and
child, to give them some space, to see if there was anything that could be done
to reduce their mutual distress. But not all the passengers, disturbed by the
uncontained and persistent shrieking, saw it that way. “Giver her a warm klap”
offered one. “She needs a good hiding....I’ll sort her out” said another. These
comments evoked my own issues, and in my own timid way I semi-audibly mumbled “can’t
you see she’s inconsolable, she needs help not threats.” In my psychologised
mind the child was shrieking for all of us, and the disgruntled passengers were
responding with however they as shrieking uncontained frightened or
uncomfortable children had been dealt with: heard, soothed, contained or beaten
into silence.
The real difference in politics – as in everything else –
is not between left and right or fundamentalists vs secularists but between
those who are conscious about their own process and projections and those who
are unconscious about them.
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Imagine if there were mandatory ante-natal courses where young parents, instead of been taught all the technical stuff about breastfeeding and latching and nappy changing (not that those are not important) were taught the basics of surviving post natal depression, and how they could advantage their child by facilitating secure attachment, ie, a course training new parents to be effective "interactive psychobiological regulators" through physical contact (touch, feeding and cuddles), eye contact, and vocal tone (comforing sounds and lullabies), play, stimulation (arousal) and rest and disengagement, all in an intuitive rythm and dance between mother and child, and father and child. Yes a lot of input up front, and costly, but a stitch in time saves nine...and (as Mr Indivar Bilenko points out) lives.
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Imagine if there were mandatory ante-natal courses where young parents, instead of been taught all the technical stuff about breastfeeding and latching and nappy changing (not that those are not important) were taught the basics of surviving post natal depression, and how they could advantage their child by facilitating secure attachment, ie, a course training new parents to be effective "interactive psychobiological regulators" through physical contact (touch, feeding and cuddles), eye contact, and vocal tone (comforing sounds and lullabies), play, stimulation (arousal) and rest and disengagement, all in an intuitive rythm and dance between mother and child, and father and child. Yes a lot of input up front, and costly, but a stitch in time saves nine...and (as Mr Indivar Bilenko points out) lives.
Bias versus Subjectivity
Everything
is embedded in a specific, particularistic set of circumstances. Seeing only
what you see from your corner of the universe is not necessarily about bias, (although
the deliberate refusal to consider other points of view may be) it is about
human limitation – our conditioning is linear and non-repeatable, so we cannot
authentically be products of multiple cultures and circumstances, although we
can acquire a superficial knowledge of other cultures.
The word “biased” is itself a “biased” (or loaded, not
value neutral) term. It seems to me – and perhaps this is my “bias” – that subjectivities
are inherent and inescapable in any particularistic assertion about reality. It
is not possible to talk about anything without the subjective, point-of-view of
the speaker(s) informing their discussion. Perhaps the only differences can be
found in the degree to which speakers are willing to own their “biases” i.e
subjectivities, vs their pretence that they don’t have any.
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polarity and subjectivity: The balance between polarity and equality as far as the genders go: we want to achieve the latter without losing the former; homogenisation serves no one. the same is true for ethnic, linguistic, faith and cultural groupings in a mosaic of co-existence, how to achieve functional equality without emasculating / defeminising complex traditions....
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polarity and subjectivity: The balance between polarity and equality as far as the genders go: we want to achieve the latter without losing the former; homogenisation serves no one. the same is true for ethnic, linguistic, faith and cultural groupings in a mosaic of co-existence, how to achieve functional equality without emasculating / defeminising complex traditions....
Labels:
blind spots,
ideas,
labels,
language,
metafours,
owning our prejudices,
skillful means
Tuesday, March 18, 2014
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